Sunrise, sunset

img_1738This is a difficult time of year for me. Tonight, sunset in Boston will be 5:33pm. Tomorrow, when daylight saving ends, it will be 4:32. The sun will set while I still have an hour and a half at work. By the end of December it will set while the children I nanny and I are making our way home from school. We won’t get back to a 5:30 sunset till the end of February. Almost four months. Four months of driving home in the dark. Four months of eating dinner with darkened windows. Darkness is descending, not just over me, not in certain places, but over the whole city, the whole country, and it feels huge and out of my control.

There are little things I can do, of course, and I do them diligently. Rituals, exercises, both of the body and the spirit. I light candles. I try to pause every evening when the sun sets, to mark the transition, to make it feel like something I am a part of rather than something that is happening to me. I stretch out on my yoga mat, meditate and pray, breathing in the presence of the Spirit. I try to make friends with the darkness. I learn to walk in it, and try to be open to its gifts and its lessons.

Barbara Brown Taylor wrote a book called Learning to Walk in the Dark. It is about times of depression or doubt, but she also undertakes a literal examination of darkness, of what it means to move about in it. She writes,

I have learned things in the dark that I could never have learned in the light, things that have saved my life over and over again, so that there is really only one logical conclusion. I need darkness as much as I need light.

I believe this is true. But it doesn’t make it easier to face dark nights, either those of the soul, or spirit, or the revolution of the sun (combined with coastlines and country-lines that force Boston into the wrong time zone). So I prepare myself, and I work hard to make sure I have the tools at hand I’ll need, my emotional and spiritual flashlights and night lights.

But I grieve, too. I weep today, watching this last 5:30 sunset from my window. And I want to hold space for others who weep. Seasonal Affective Disorder affects different people in different ways, but it is widespread. And if you are already dealing with depression it can be compounded by the season and the time change. If you are weeping today, whether because of the earth’s coming darkness or because of darkness in your heart, I see you. You are not alone. I’ll weep with you and honor your sorrow, and then I’ll light my candles for you with hope and trust. Hold on. You are not alone. We might have trouble seeing each other here, in the night, but there are many of us. Light a candle for me, too, so I can see you. We will make it through together.

Love,
Jessica

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4 comments on “Sunrise, sunset

  1. amyptucson says:

    It’s one of the reasons I moved to Arizona. I feel ya! You are not alone.

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  2. Tammy says:

    Great post Jessica- thank you. I (like amyptucson!) am in Arizona and I always welcome the dark- I think because it means we can open windows and doors again. And grow flowers and vegetables. I also like getting up when it’s dark. It feels very private and comforting and if I actually run into to anyone, they don’t speak as loud as in the light.

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  3. deeh33 says:

    Your blog post reminded me of Simon and Garfunkel’s Sounds of Silence: “Hello Darkness, my old friend/ I’ve come to talk with you again.” Although I, like you and so many others, am a lover of the light, it is the darkness, when I am alone and undistracted, that cradles my thoughts and resurrects my memories.I need both.

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  4. Chris says:

    Good that you know what helps you during these darker months! I’d like to point out that there is also a sort of seasonal affective disorder some people can frequently experience in spring/summer, when the rest of the population is glad that warmer and much sunnier days are here again. On Wikipedia one can read more on ‘springtime lethargy’, though some people get downright depressed during that time. Since the winter SAD is more common, I guess, people that have the spring/summer version, can encounter misunderstanding, and less compassion.

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